Nigerian Dating: How to Stay Safe Online
SuruLereLove.com will never reveal your personal details to other members. On the SuruLereLove.com website you are known exclusively by a neutral ID number. Your name, your email address, your phone number and your home address are concealed and protected by the website’s secure infrastructure.
When using the site, members can only communicate through SuruLereLove.com’s anonymous contact and messaging system. At all points, it is for YOU to choose whether you supply another member with further personal details (such as your name and email address).
COMMUNICATING THROUGH SuruLereLove.com – POINTS TO REMEMBER
- Don’t give out personal contact details immediately. Remember you are the one in control. Don’t put personal contact details in your profile or in the first messages you send to another member.
- You can contact/reply to other members via SuruLereLove.com’s secure, anonymous contact system. Take your time to learn more about each potential partner and to feel comfortable about communicating with him/her. It is for you to decide if and when you want to take things further – for instance by supplying your name, your personal email address or your mobile phone number,
- You may wish to set up an email account exclusively for activities connected to your search for a partner. – and you don’t have to reveal your name in the email address.
- If you want to talk to another member on the phone, remember that a mobile phone number gives you more flexibility and anonymity. It’s also easier, if necessary, to change a mobile number than a fixed line number. When calling another member, you can key prevent your number appearing on the other person’s caller ID. Please be aware that software like Trucaller can reveal your identity to unknown persons so be careful even with hidden numbers.
- If anything makes you feel uncomfortable about another member, stop contacting them. You can delete their profile instantly from your SuruLereLove.com Contacts list, which means they will be unable to contact you via the website. If you feel someone is abusing the service, tell us immediately.
- Always use your common sense and remember you are the one in control.
ARRANGING TO MEET ANOTHER MEMBER – POINTS TO REMEMBER
We sincerely hope that you reach the point of deciding to meet other SuruLereLove.com members face to face, but at all times the choice is clearly yours.
When meeting another member, we recommend you bear the following points in mind.
- Meet ‘on neutral ground’ in a busy public place that you know well.
- Don’t arrange for the other member to pick you up from your home.
- Don’t let the other member make arrangements for your travel or for any hotel accommodation.
- Keep a trustworthy friend or relative informed and on call.
1. Let this friend or relative know where you are going and what time you are expected home.
2. Supply your friend/relative with details of the person you are going to meet.
3. At a suitable point, call your friend/relative to let them know that things are OK. - Consider going on a double date with a friend/friends, or going out with a group. The group can include people you know and people your date knows.
- You will probably feel that you know someone through email and phone contact, but remember that they are still a stranger when you first meet face to face.
- Don’t accept a lift home if you feel uncomfortable about it.
- Always have a contingency plan in place. If something unexpected happens, make sure you can leave quickly and easily and that there are people close by who can help you if necessary
- Take a mobile phone with you. Make sure the phone is fully charged and working. You can leave the phone on during the date if you wish.
- It can take time to get to know someone properly. If a person is truly interested in you, they won’t mind if you want to take your time to develop a relationship.
- Always use your common sense, keep in control and don’t be forced into doing something you wouldn’t normally do.
PROTECTING YOURSELF FROM FRAUD AND SCAMS
Like you, the vast majority of SuruLereLove.com members are genuine people who have joined the service to find a serious relationship. Like you, they appreciate everything SuruLereLove.com does to provide a secure environment for members. For instance:
- all SuruLereLove.com member profiles are checked before they go live on the site;
- your identity is kept private with a neutral codename;
- your photo remains private until you choose to ‘release’ it on a one-to-one basis;
But on the Internet, as in any other area of life, there is the rare dishonest individual who finds a way past security measures and who will use deception to obtain money or valuable personal details. These people are known as scammers.
Scammers – the signs
Photos that look ‘professionally’ shot and where the person (male or female) is of ‘model’ quality
Emails that do not address your questions but rather seem to go down a structured path of pre-meditated content conveying an ever increasing attraction to you
Fraudsters use the identities of Generals or business men. Common male professions are army generals / colonel, civil engineer in the oil / gold industry or jewellery designer. Common female professions are nurses and fashion designer, but mostly the female fraudster does not make a direct reference to her profession.
Sob stories’ – ill relatives; recently widowed; they’ve been robbed; they have no money for flights or for furthering education; they cannot cash a cheque or money order
Asking you to deposit money on their behalf into a bank
Poor grammar and spelling in emails.
No spaces between the end of one sentence and the beginning of the next (blocks of text)
Use ‘webspeak’ or text abbreviations such as ‘pls’, ‘u r’ etc
Try to get you onto an instant messenger service quickly
Use pet names for you early on
At SuruLereLove.com, we try our best to help make your experience of finding a long-term relationship both secure and safe. We hope that – supported by your trust and good judgement – SuruLereLove.com will help you find someone who really is right for you.